by, 03-03-2012 at 12:24 AM (1115 Views)
For someone who's dealt with more death than he'd like to admit, when I got the news today that my childhood best friend's mother had passed from her stage 4 breast cancer I was kind of taken away. You see, when my mother passed two years ago my friend and I hadn't seen each other in a few years aside from in passing. We never had a major rift, or violent fight, we just grew apart. He didn't go to my mother's funeral (his choice, I'm not angry, he's the one who has to live with not having gone to someone he loved like family's funeral.) and has seemed kind of taken aback by my offer of helping arrange the services with him and his dad in accordance with her will.
What surprised me about all of the above, was not him missing my mother's funeral, nor the two of them being unsure of my offer. The surprise for me came in their surprise, just because I've not been a major part of your lives for the past few years doesn't negate the 19 years of friendship and seeing each other EVERY day, I loved Carol (the mom) like an aunt and am both sad to see her go and happy to see her not suffer. I think we may have turned a corner and both the dad and son realize that while we haven't been that close recently, that if my family starts to feel pain I will rush to help the best I can.
I guess I had no REAL point to this blog post, I have a lot weird emotions that I'm not used to feeling. Maybe, my point is to just cherish those around you, because well... Who the fuck else are we gonna watch horror movies with?